Ep. 89 - Dealing with Difficult People: Why Hurt People Hurt People
We explore the powerful idea that "Hurt People Hurt People." Drawing from personal experiences and reflections on her younger self, Rhiannon delves into the common tendency to perceive life's challenges as happening to us rather than for us. She reflects on the victim mentality and negative self-talk that often accompanies adversity, emphasising that everyone, to some degree, grapples with fear, self-doubt, and negativity.
Rhiannon shares insights gained from coaching clients dealing with various life challenges, highlighting a common pattern of thought that individuals go through when healing from past events and trauma. She discusses the stages of processing trauma she's witnessed with her clients, moving from hurt to anger, and eventually reaching a point of forgiveness and reconciliation. She underlines the importance of asking ourselves the question "What's the lesson here? What's the gift here?" to shift the perspective from being a victim to a learner.
Other topics discussed include:
- The impact of negative self-talk and how it can be extinguished by reframing the narrative and practicing empathy.
- Contentment with ourselves and standing in our worthiness, and choosing to live a life surrounded by those who treat us well are essential for health, happiness and growth.
- Healing from past hurt allows us to break free from a cycle of negativity and victimhood, empowering us to live a life aligned with our values and surrounded by positive influences.
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