YOUR YEAR SERIES – LIGHT THAT FIRE

EP #77

 

“Do I need a life coach?” You’re listening to Episode 77, with Rhiannon Bush

 

Welcome to the Do I need a life coach? Podcast. We’re here to discuss the ins- and outs- of the life coaching industry and give you tools to use, to see for yourself. I’m your host, Rhiannon Bush. Mother, management consultant and a passionate, certified life coach.

 

Today we’re going to go through some questions for you to really sit down and answer when you get a chance, and then we’re going to finish with a little visualisation. These questions will help you along the way to goal achievement by using passion, positivity and realistic-ness (if that’s a word?) along the way.

 

First one, what feels important to you? After reading a great article by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck which I still haven’t read but is sitting on our bookshelf at home, he talks about people trying to find their life purpose. Which is a massive question, and after reading the way he wrote about it, quite a pressurized and foolish question.

 

He breaks time down into two things – important and unimportant. When we spend our time doing unimportant things, we “kill time”. When we spend our time doing things that mean a lot to us or we value, it’s important. Maybe instead of looking at the large, everlasting question of “what is my life’s purpose” we fill our days with more meaningful (to us) things.

 

Let’s link that back to your goal. Take 10 minutes to write everything that comes to mind when I ask this question. Ready?

 

Why is your goal important to you? Why? Keep asking why? Go 5 why’s deep. The 5 why’s method will help you discover the actual root cause of why it’s important to you, not just all the peripheral reasons why you want the goal, and help you deeply understand the reasons driving you to achieve it. Do that now. Why?

 

 

Any surprises? What did you learn? What did you feel doing this exercise?

 

Create a sentence from your reasons that you love and that you feel. Say it aloud.

 

Do you remember a time when you laughed until you cried? Go there now, remember that time. What did you see? Where were you? Who was there? What happened? … Now we know why you want what you want, let’s find a way to put more meaning into your life. Let’s find ways to live with more purpose each and every day.

 

 

What are you willing to sacrifice? If we just be brutally honest, or even negative for a moment, then we can acknowledge and plan for those sacrifices, yes? So if you think about it, really think about it, what are you willing to give up to achieve your goal – in the way of time or money or both? Really think about it. If we think about time – is it time spent working on your goal that means time away from friends, family, work or sleeping? What will it take for you to achieve your goal? How much and how often, for how long? 

 

If we think about money, again same questions - how much, and what’s the best channel to spend it to achieve your goals? What impact does that have on your wealth or lifestyle? We all have to make sacrifices, so getting strategic and planning them ahead of time will allow for us to make sure we’re doing it deliberately to ensure the sacrifices are worthwhile. If in doubt, ask yourself, if I spent all this time/money/both on my goal, and still didn’t achieve it, would it be worth it? If the answer’s no, you need to commit and make sure you get your goal achieved. Eyes on the prize.

 

Years ago I heard a speaker by the name of Kerwin Rae and he spoke about the fact that he did a lot of fasting. The part I remember the most clearly was the way he spoke about time and how much time he thought about what he was going to eat. Preparing it, shopping for it, when he would eat.. and so simply not eating had given him a lot of mental space back to do other things, more meaningful things. I remember times in my work history where I’ve been so in the moment and focused and energized by what I’ve been doing that I forgot to eat. How about you? What makes you forget to eat because you’re just so engrossed in it? What was the passion? Was it growth, learning, connectedness, socializing, improvement, winning… How can you do more of that?

 

When we expand our comfort zone and go after a goal, we put ourselves back into the ‘L-plater’ status of what we’re trying to achieve. Within our comfort zone, we’re fully competent and capable drivers. The space just outside our comfort zone – we’re L-platers and the space way outside our comfort zone, we haven’t even taken the written test. Therefore, when we go to achieve a goal, we start again and the older we get it seems, the less we enjoy humiliating ourselves or looking silly. We become impermeable to the flow of learning and looking ridiculous. And this not only prevents us from achieving what we want to achieve, but also from having a lot of fun and laughs.

 

Will achieving your goal be uncomfortable or involve humiliation or looking silly? If the answer is YES then that’s great – well done. Because it means you’re being honest and your goal is an expansion of your current world. It’ll also mean laughing at yourself and finding the positive optimism. But each time you do it, and are either humiliated or you do it successfully, you’re learning, growing and getting better. You’re increasing your competency.

 

Most big goals we can’t achieve alone. Who do you need on your team? Who will champion you selflessly? Who will remind you of your strengths and capabilities and why you want what you want? Who do you need on your team? ON the flip side, who do you need to not know about your goal? Who do you need to protect your goal from?

And the biggest question – if you had 12 months left on planet Earth, is this how you would choose to spend your time/money/both, and who with? Is it in alignment with your goal? If it is or isn’t, what do you make that mean? And are you ok with that?

 

As my beautiful partner Damien says “you can’t live today as if it’s your last, and you also can’t live like you’re going to live forever”. As long as you’re satisfied with your reasons, that’s what counts.

 

There you have it:

1. Why why why why why?

2. What are you willing to sacrifice?

3. What makes you forget to eat because you’re just so engrossed in it?

4. Will achieving your goal be uncomfortable or involve humiliation or looking silly?

5. Who do you need on your team?

6. Who do you need to protect your goal from?

7. If you had 12 months left on planet Earth, is this how you would choose to spend your time/money/both, and who with?

 

Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and let your mind wander into the realms of your deepest desires. Picture a serene landscape. A place where the air is infused with a sense of accomplishment and the colours of success paint the horizon.

 

Imagine yourself standing on the summit of a majestic mountain. The air is crisp and invigorating, and you can feel the solid ground beneath your feet. As you look around, you see an expansive view of the world, space, an enormous amount of space, and a panoramic spectacle of your journey. You’ve done it. You’ve climbed the mountain, conquering  challenges along the way and now, you stand tall at its peak. You did this. You own this.

 

Visualise a vibrant sunrise on the horizon, casting a warm and golden glow over the landscape, the sky is painted with hues of pink, orange, and purple, reflecting the beauty of your achievement. The sun, a radiant ball of success, rises with a promise of new beginnings.

 

Look down the slope, and notice the path you've traversed. Remember. See the twists and turns, the steep ascents, and the plateaus where you caught your breath. Each step, a testament to your resilience, determination, and return to your goal and claiming what you deserve.

 

As you stand at the summit, let the sounds of success envelop you. Hear the gentle rustle of the wind, a melody celebrating your triumph. Close your eyes and listen to the echoes of your hard work, echoing through the valleys below. The sound of your heartbeat, steady and strong, resonates with the rhythm of accomplishment.

 

Extend your arms and feel the cool breeze against your skin. Embrace the sensations of success – a tingling sensation of pride, a warmth of fulfillment that courses through your veins. The ground beneath your feet is solid, grounding you in the reality of your achievement. Feel the weight of your success, a tangible presence that fills the air around you.

 

As you take in the breathtaking panorama, let the emotions of success surge within you. Feel the joy bubbling up, an effervescent elation that lights up your soul. Sense the gratitude welling up for the challenges that molded you, the setbacks that propelled you forward, and the victories that sweetened your journey.

 

Now, imagine a crystal-clear lake at the summit, reflecting your image. Gaze into the water and see the reflection of the person who conquered every obstacle, who persisted when the path seemed daunting, and who emerged triumphant. This reflection is a testament to your growth, resilience, and the unwavering belief that carried you to the top.

 

Picture confetti falling from the sky, a symbolic celebration of your success. Hear the cheers of those who supported you, the applause that acknowledges your journey. In this moment of triumph, revel in the accomplishment, and let the energy of success infuse every cell of your being.

 

As you stand on the summit, envision the path that extends beyond. See new mountains to climb, new goals to conquer. Your achievement at this moment is not just an endpoint but a stepping stone to even greater heights. Another beginning. The world is open before you, and the possibilities are limitless.

 

Finally, express gratitude for the journey – for the challenges that sculpted your character, for the victories that affirmed your capabilities, and for the growth that made you the person standing at the summit. Gratitude is the anchor that keeps you humble in success and propels you forward with a heart full of abundance.

 

Take a deep breath and slowly return to the present moment, carrying the vivid imagery of your achievement with you. Know that this visualization is a glimpse into the future you are actively creating. With this mental image etched in your mind, step forward into the world, empowered by the knowledge that you have the strength to turn your dreams into reality.

 

I’ll see you soon.

 

 

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